Updated: Aug 26, 2021
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12
When we got married, we had no counseling, we never talked about what we expected from each other, or what we promised to give one another. We just got married, repeated our vows, exchanged rings, kissed, and 47 years later, here we are.
We did have expectations though. We didn’t talk about them, but that doesn’t mean we didn’t have them though. I expected her to be faithful to me, to be honest and truthful to me, to give me children, to keep our home, and even though she worked outside of the home, I would have been willing to take care of her and our home.
In spite of our blindness, our sinfulness, and our failure to talk about our expectations... we were able to make it to where we are today. It’s best to talk about your expectations. Why? Because some expectations are realistic and some are unrealistic. Some are EASY, some are SWEAT, and some are NO WAY.
But how do we maintain joy when we have unmet expectations, for as the Bible says in Proverbs 13:12, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” Everyone who dares to be honest knows deep down there are strong desires in their hearts.